End of the Week

     Its been really hard this week in dealing with everyone.  It almost seems that one in this house has any self control and just completely gives in to their impulses whether they be verbal or physical ones.  It almost feels like I am the TP that everyone wipes their ass with.  Not that anyone is going out of their way to do so, but like I have previously said, my feelings seem like they are neither considered or recognized.  Children left to be chaotic and do what they want.  Again, it is easier to give what is wanted in order to be left alone rather then be productive and parent them to be better.  As it stands now, they have next to no structure when it comes to this.  For of them, they have come to terms with the routine of responsibilities getting done when they get home before getting to do anything else.  Although it mostly stops there.  Another rules getting conveniently forgotten.  So any positive traction made goes no where without further reinforcement.  All are not held accountable to standard.  They have been groomed to where if they frustrate an adult enough, they will be given whatever they want just to be left alone.  Playing parents is also a common tactic.  Mom being the usual provider of any discipline, they will ask for permission for things, but if its not the answer they want, they know where to go.  Mom is by far, much more of a parent then the other.  She has a standard and wants it.  But unfortunately doesn't receive the back up she needs from who she need it from.  So her limited energy get depleted and its like pouncing on a wounded animal.  Dad is about the laziest person I have ever met.  Doesn't work when he is home to do actual paid work for his job.  When he does go, is always complaining about others and how they don't know what they are doing.  Tells everyone that he is treated like a running joke at work.  I don't blame them.  He doesn't give them a reason to earn a higher degree of respect.  He is not consistent.  He will put in a 100% for a day, and say he is exhausted for the rest of the week and tap out both at work and at home.  He constantly feels that he needs to have his hands in everything but changing something.  For instance, this morning, I came in to clean dishes put on top of the counter, that had been in the drying rack the prior evening.  You could have just put them away.  But it is a constant trend of passive aggressiveness that continues to get infuriating.  I mumble insults under my breath.  His parenting is non existent unless what is happening is so bad that he then gets involved.  Otherwise, he has even stated that since he grew up an only child that they should literally be allowed to do whatever they want as long as they are not bringing harm to themselves or others.  No curfew, no boundaries, and especially no accountability.  This is not being a good dad, letting them do whatever they want and giving in to nearly every whim.  The children go the path of least resistance and it end up affecting everyone else in a bad way.  His alcoholism makes everything even worse.  It's a game to him.  Hiding it like a child...and just like a child, does a horrible job of doing so.  What is a person supposed to do?